No matter where you are on your sobriety journey, there are bound to be people in your life who will not—or can not—support you in the way that you need. Be it an old college drinking buddy with bad habits or a close family member that cannot fathom why on Earth you’d need treatment, they come in many forms, and as a person who is in alcohol addiction treatment, you must learn how to deal with them.
Of course, that’s a tall order! You might not want to cut these people out of your life entirely; many of them might not be outright malicious, after all, and you very well might love them dearly, despite their potentially hurtful words or actions. It still stands, though, that if a loved one troubles your sobriety in any way, you must deeply examine that relationship and decide if it’s right for you—not the addicted you, but the you who is in recovery.
Sound like a confusing concept? Don’t worry. Health Recovery Center, a Minneapolis alcohol treatment center, has some tips for navigating troubling post-treatment relationships below.
Remember: You’re a Different Person Now
The person who walked into an alcohol treatment program is no doubt radically different from who you are now. No doubt, you were at a dark point in your life, and what you wanted and valued in relationships at that dark point is most likely worlds away from what you want and value now. Is this loved one who troubles your sobriety fulfilling your past, addiction-based wants and values, or are they modeling your current, healthier ones? Answering that question can, in some situations, dictate if the relationship is truly beneficial to the wiser person that you are now.
If the answer to that question is clear-cut, then so will be your frame of action. But what if it isn’t?
● Consider minimizing contact with the troubling person, at least for a time | After that time has passed, take a look at your frame of mind and habits. Are they healthier or more detrimental to you than before you minimized contact? Why might this be?
● Stand up for yourself | If the person truly wants to keep you in their lives, they’ll take to heart your reasonable requests to respect your boundaries.
● Remember that there are people out there who will love you for you | It sounds cheesy, but it’s true! You shouldn’t need to compromise your health or well-being for any relationship, and remembering this can give you the courage you need to let go of harmful relationships.
Contact Health Recovery Center for a Comprehensive Recovery Experience
If you’re still seeking permanent and lasting sobriety, don’t let other treatment centers give you the runaround; Health Recovery Center is the real, orthomolecular thing. For an addiction treatment center that truly cares about your health, give us a call at 800-554-9155.